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Woman concerned about husband’s faithfulness

Posted: June 14, 2013 1:47 p.m.
Updated: June 17, 2013 5:00 a.m.

Dear Annie: I have been married to the love of my life for several years.

Our children are all grown and out of the nest.

I recently learned that over the past few months my husband has had numerous telephone conversations with a female acquaintance.

I know this woman, too, although not very well.

I travel for work several times a month, and that’s when most of these conversations took place.

My husband says they are "just friends,"that she’s young and looks to him for advice.

Annie, she’s younger than I am, but not so young that she still needs advice from someone old enough to be her father.

Do you think this could be a case of "where there’s smoke there’s fire"? What should I do? -- Country Gal

Dear Gal:

Your husband is not being forthcoming when he says they are "just friends."

The fact that most of these calls took place when you were out of town indicates he was hiding them, which means he is not so innocent in his intentions.

Nothing may have happened, but he didn’t discourage her attentions or make their contact transparent to you.

Tell him the "friendship" is over, or it’s time to see a marriage counselor. Or an attorney.

Dear Annie:

However, we recently had lunch with one of our adult sons in a restaurant.

He continued to talk with food in his mouth, placing his other hand about two inches away from his face.

After witnessing this a couple of times, I asked him to please not do that as it is not only rude, but, between the food and his hand, we couldn’t understand a word he was saying.

He replied that it is rude if one doesn’t place their hand in front of their mouth while chewing.

What happened to the rule "never talk with your mouth full"? -- Dismayed Parents

Dear Parents:

It is not. One should chew with one’s mouth closed.

One should swallow food before opening one’s mouth to speak.

If you can do both of those things, there is no reason to put your hand over your mouth and prevent people from seeing your lips and hearing your voice clearly.

You have our permission to send this to your misinformed child.

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmail, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254.

We are going to assume your son witnessed someone doing this and decided it was appropriate.
In raising our children, we always stressed proper etiquette and thought they knew how to behave.
There may not be fire, but only because you stomped it out.


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