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5 legit reasons youre better off alone than with a cheater
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Saving a marriage after an affair takes hard work from both people. But if things are not getting better, here are five good reasons to call it quits. - photo by Georgia Lee
Adultery can damage the mind, body and soul. It can leave you questioning yourself and your faith. If a cheating spouse doesnt truly make amends, or makes claims of change without really putting in an effort, you may be better off getting out instead of sticking around. Here are five good reasons why its actually better to be single than to stay with a cheating spouse:

1. Stay safe

It is unlikely that someone who is careless enough with your feelings to continuously lie and cheat would take the necessary precautions to keep you safe from his exploits. Sexual history, health checks and contraception are often not at the forefront of a cheating mind, and can spell disaster when those dirty deeds are brought home to you.

2. Missed target

Misdirected passion can inspire jealousy and rage. And the little lies whispered into the other womans ear could have her trying to get revenge on you and your family one day. Mistresses often mistake lust for love, truly believing another womans husband will leave his family for her. When the harsh truth comes to light, she may not be ready to let go, and could try to take what wasnt hers to begin with.

3. Open wounds

Focusing your energy on keeping an unfaithful spouse means you are not doing the work to heal yourself. Spouses troubles often fit together like puzzle pieces, bringing out what needs to be healed in each other. Make sure your energy is going where wounds can be healed, not reopened.

4. Toxic relationship

Think about what staying in a toxic relationship -- one where a spouse is unwilling to change his or her ways -- is teaching your children. They could be learning things like codependency and unhealthy attachment patterns. You may be modeling behaviors that teach them to expect to cheat or be cheated on, or to not try their best to find a faithful and committed partner. You are role models to your children; the kind of relations you have will be the template for what they seek. Make sure you are showing them what they do want -- not what they dont.

5. New suitors

Good men are hard to find, especially when you refuse to look. So while you are holding on to someone who breaks vows and lacks commitment, you may be passing up on many better and brighter opportunities for the marriage you truly seek. A suitor who would uphold the sanctity of his union will never have that chance if adulterers remain married to dependent partners. Being open to a happy marriage instead of attached to a crumbling one will help you attract the kind of man you thought youd married. Only this time, youll have the experience to help guide you away from what you dont want.

Remaining in a marriage after an affair can be a difficult choice. There are many things to consider in the aftermath of infidelity. But if your spouse shows no signs of slowing down and youre left wading in uncertainty, it might just be time to sever ties and walk alone for a time.