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6 vital things to remember when your man checks out another woman
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There are billions of beautiful women in this world, and chances are your man is going to notice. - photo by Amberlee Lovell
As you read this there are about 3.5 billion women living in this world - 3.5 billion gorgeous women. This means youre going to be surrounded by beautiful women your whole life, and, if you are human, youll notice.

As will the men in your life.

When another woman walks by with all those physical attributes youve always self-consciously been aware that you lack, it hardly helps to notice your man sneak a peak at her. We ladies try not to notice. We try not to be hurt by it, but sometimes its hard to ignore. The following should be remembered when you notice his eyes wandering across the room:

1. Companionship is not skin deep

If you are in a healthy relationship, there is something you have to offer your man that another woman does not: history, relationship and your companionship.

Attraction may have initially triggered your connection, but real relationships evolve from the googly-eyed phase to something with meaning and depth. Love obviously doesnt come from beauty. Thank goodness for that! You offer something of depth to your man the beautiful companionship that cannot be created in a glance.

2. We were created to appreciate beauty

We are naturally drawn to it. Thats what makes art, movies and photos so alluring. Its natural to notice beauty. Men and women both do it. Its not a personal slight to notice another womans beauty. It is just a natural acknowledgment of something we are created to appreciate.

3. Beauty is not a limited resource

Just because this woman the one your man is noticing is pretty, doesnt mean you arent. There is no cap on beauty distribution. Learn to genuinely be happy for someone elses success, someone elses attractiveness and someone elses happiness. What we sometimes forget is that these characteristics are not like a pie. Its not as if one person receiving a huge slice results in you receiving something smaller.

4. You control your self esteem

This is hard. Its not an overnight fix either. Media bombards us with all sorts of things we should try to base our self-esteem off of: looks, talents, friends, jobs, popularity, social class, relationship status. The problem is, all of those things can be taken away from us. There is absolutely one thing you control in your life and that is how you treat others. Your self-esteem will grow as you focus on loving others.

Then, at this weak moment of wondering if your man would rather be with that girl than you, you know you are worth loving because you love yourself.

5. His reaction says more about him than you

Yes, it is important to have the self-esteem to not have someone elses opinion affect you, but how the man handles this situation says a lot about his respect for you. Noticing is different than ogling. If hes doing this habitually, its disrespectful to you.

Him noticing someone else is not a slight against you, but how he deals with the situation says a lot about his character. Communicate with him that this makes you feel uncomfortable or inadequate when he handles this situation disrespectfully.

6. Take a step back

Were all careless at some point. We do and say things with good intentions that come off wrong. To him, this moment is probably not a big deal. In a healthy relationship, your man wants you to be happy. He isnt deliberately intending to hurt your feelings.

Look at the whole picture of your relationship. We tend to blow careless moments out of proportion, forgetting that most of the time we have something very good going on in the relationship. You can let it go and realize its unintentional, or you can kindly address it.