Married couples are finding benefits from loyalty, honesty and communication.
But it’s sex that’s bringing all of that together.
Sex among married couples varies from age to age. According to WebMD, married couples aged 18 to 29 have sex about 112 times a year, or about twice a week. That number drops to 86 times a year (seven times a month) for couples aged 30 to 39, and 69 times a year (six times a month) for married couples aged 50 to 59 years old. The variation in sex frequency was echoed and confirmed by married partners who spoke out on social media.
Waiting until you’re married to have sex has been linked to benefits in the past, too. One study found that 22 percent of married couples were happier when they waited to have sex.
But what are some of the benefits of having sex in your marriage? Here are 11 things that married couples can gain from having sex:
It can bring you happiness
Happy couples spoke out in a survey by Happify, a happiness-training app, earlier this year about their sex lives, and it seems that most happy couples have sex two to three times every week. In fact, 55 percent of couples are more likely to report being happy for having that much sex every week, according to Happify.
Sex makes you less stressed
According to WebMD, sex has been known to make people less stressed. It releases brain chemicals that take over the mind and send shock waves to your rewards system. Stress between married couples is often a big problem and can lead to troubling times, research has found. By having sex, some of that stress can be alleviated, making the marriage a little happier and allowing it to work better.
You can make more money
A research paper from the Institute for the Study of Labor found that those who had sex more than four times a week were more likely to earn more money. This is because sex has been linked to making people happier. And happiness, the study found, can increase the drive and productivity of a worker.
“People need to love and be loved (sexually and non-sexually) by others. In the absence of these elements, many people become susceptible to loneliness, social anxiety and depression that could affect their working life,” said the study’s author, Nick Drydakis, to CBS News.
It increases conversation
The Huffington Post offered nine different types of sex that can help your marriage, and a lot of them helped with communication for married couples. Sex puts both parties into a vulnerable state, opening up the conversation window and allowing more honest discussion, HuffPost reported.
“Couples who develop a sexual repertoire which includes a variety of sexual habits, attitudes and options report feeling more satisfaction and freedom to express their love with enough variety that they never get bored,” according to HuffPost.
It acts as a unifier
According to Mary Jo Rapini of The Huffington Post, sex can be a good way not only to open up communication waves, but also put everything out in the open and keep things level between each other. Women will feel free to express their opinions about sex and what they want in marriage, and men will be more open to listening about it, too.
Frequent sex makes everything easier
Having sex every day in a year was the goal of two separate married couples, and both came out the better for it. According to WebMD, two married couples experimented with having sex each day of the year. Not only did it relieve the stresses and concerns they had, but it made them less angry and happier. You can read about their experiences in the books “Just Do It: How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Lives for 101 Days (No Excuses!)” by Doug Brown and in “365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy” by Charla Muller with Betsy Thorpe.
It could lead to having kids
Reproduction rules dictate that having sex leads to childbirth (which leads to more than 3 million people being born every year, according to the U.S. Census). And though some studies have discovered otherwise, most parents have said in the past that having kids makes them happier in life, according to CNN.
It can improve your health
Sexless marriages have been linked to hurting couples in the past. Power of Two, a marriage information website, explained that couples with a sexless marriage see a breakdown in communication and emotional ties. There are also health risks -- back pain, heart attacks and prostate difficulties -- that can spring up from not having sex, too, according to the Power of Two.
Sex allows men and women to be themselves
The Wall Street Journal asked a simple question -- how often should married couples have sex? But the answer to that question was not so straightforward. According to the article, sex allows men and women to be more themselves. Men act more aggressive and in need of power, where women find emotional connections that relate back to their maternal instincts. By becoming more vulnerable through sexual intimacy, men and women in a marriage can see the true side of each other and look past the masks of disguise they may put on.
Sex can make your marriage more romantic
Scheduling sex has been something that couples have tried in the past. One blogger, Jo, wrote about how she tried scheduling sex, and it made everything all the better. It was more intimate, allowing her and her husband to connect on another level for that time.
“Planning can be a great thing,” she wrote. “You plan a date. You plan a vacation. You plan a marriage proposal. You plan a wedding. You plan a surprise party. They’re all more romantic for the preparation. So why not plan time for sex, one of the most important and cherished parts of a marriage?”
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